NOURISH, NOURISH, NOURISH!

My thoughts in this matter are focused on the teachings from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.

“Marriage would be happier if nurtured more carefully.” These are wise words from a man name Russell M. Nelson.

 I came across an article, focused on the value of nurturing in marriage. There were many thoughts and insights I came across that may add value to people who are religious and are striving to add good morals to the home. 

Mr. Nelson starts off his speech by sharing a story. He said:

“On a recent flight, I sat behind a husband and wife. She obviously loved her husband. As she stroked the back of his neck I could see her wedding ring. She would nestle close to him and rest her head upon his shoulder, seeking his companionship.

In contrast, he seemed totally oblivious to her presence. He was focused solely upon an electronic game player. During the entire flight, his attention was riveted upon that device. Not once did he look at her, speak to her, or acknowledge her yearning for affection.

His inattention made me feel like shouting: “Open your eyes, man! Can’t you see? Pay attention! Your wife loves you! She needs you!”

Sometimes we may feel the same way, being concerned of someone’s relationship. These experiences are good. They help us learn and observe the possibilities of what the future my look like. These experiences can mold us to become better spouses. 

Marriage brings happiness. This courtship adds more joy than does any other human relationship. Yet, there are many couples who fall short in reaching their full potential. They let their romance slacken allowing other interests to cloud the vision of what marriage really could be. Everyone experiences trials and become distracted. Many forget their vows and promsses they make in the beginning of marriage. Being mindful of this can possibly save and prepare you on how you can better nourish your marriage.

Russell M. Nelson gave three suggestions to strengthen marriage. They are three action verbs: to appreciate, to communicate, and to contemplate. 

He said, “To appreciate—to say “I love you” and “thank you”—is not difficult. But these expressions of love and appreciation do more than acknowledge a kind thought or deed. They are signs of sweet civility. As grateful partners look for the good in each other and sincerely pay compliments to one another, wives and husbands will strive to become the persons described in those compliments.”

 Second is to communicate with your spouse. This includes planning together. Couples need time to observe, talk, and really listen to each other. Cooperating will help them become more united in the bonds of marriage. They should strive to motivate each other. This unity can sustain them when goals are equally understood. Both in partnership should be on the same page.

Russel M. Nelson continues, “My third suggestion is to contemplate. This word has deep meaning. It comes from Latin roots: con, meaning “with,” and templum, meaning “a space or place to meditate.” It is the root from which the word temple comes.” Essentially our home is a temple. It is a place where rules and laws of respect and unity are established. Contemplation allows one to anticipate and to resonate with each other; this will nourish the marriage.

Each married partner should consider these suggestions by practicing them, then determine specific goals to nurture their own relationship. This all begins with sincere desire and the right attitude. Above all, they should strive to not be selfish! May we consider appreciation, communication, and contemplation in our relationships.