COMMUNICATION = LOVE

Communication is a powerful tool that can bind individuals together. When I searched this term, three definitions daunted me: 

1.) It is the imparting or exchanging of information or news. 

2.) It is a letter or message containing information or news.

3.) It is the successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings.

This is what I gathered together for myself. Communication is an exchange or giving of information that can make one successful. In our daily conversation we are given information. We get good and bad feedback. But, no matter what, retrieving this information can be good even if it is given with negativity. Feedback helps us grow, observe ourselves, and learn.

Communication is the way to strengthen a relationship. I’ve encountered man people who ended relationships because of a lack of communication. I found that it was hard for these people to recover from these past relationships. I’ve realized that a lot of people lack closure, or in other words, a lack of communication. I’ll share with you an example of how a lack of communication can be unhealthy. Especially when ending a relationship.

I was in a five-year relationship. We both had plans of someday getting married to each other. I was in love with her. I was so excited to make vows with my best friend. But then, life started getting difficult. We both strived to hang on to our promises. But one day it all changed. One day I shared with her my struggles and insecurities and sought for her love and support. She panicked and left me. It’s been a year now and I still don’t know why she left. She never gave me a solid reason why. I was just having a bad day, shared a concern, and hoped she would help me. I assume she wasn’t having a bad day too and made the decision off of her emotions. It’s a mystery. We lacked communication. Could you imagine what this did to me? It’s obvious. I was left confused. I lacked closure. I was left with my imagination to believe that there were a lot of things wrong with me. It’s been a year since this happen and I am still recovering. What I learned from this experience is everyone deserves an explanation behind every action they take.

Communication is the biggest thing I value when it comes to a relationship. Every date I’ve been on I make sure to make communication a priority. I’d admit, I’ve probably let down a few girls the past year by not being fully committed in being in a relationship. But, I make sure I give them closure because I don’t want them to suffer like the way I did. These girls deserve an explanation. It may be hard, but I believe that this strengthens us. Communication or not, we are still learning. But, we are more successful when we are conversing with one another.

This goes for the family. Communication is needed in the bonds of marriage. Life gets hard. Both partners should be open in conversation to endure the negativities of life. I look to my parents when it comes to endurance and communication. When things get hard they always checked on each other. They would have counsels on where they were emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually. If one of these three things were lacking, they would work to fix it. As a result, their marriage has lasted for 40 years. They are still going. Today it has been difficult. They are empty nesters and are caught up in a very simple routine. My dad has been isolated to his phone and my mom, her shows. The more they avoid each other, the more insecurities started seeping in. Both of them believed that they were not happy with each other. But they realized that they were caught in the web of the media and forgotten about their vows. They were able to recognize this and find ways on how they can improve. They continue because they communicate.