We Need to Teach Children Intimacy 

Intimacy is an important part of our relationships with others. In my studies I have learned that to understand intimacy, we must first understand the purpose of families/relationships. Why are families a thing? What is their purpose? I’ll let you ponder on those questions.

We must understand our roles to each other. Teaching human intimacy is a vital role to the human race. Why? It’s because intimacy is a special thing; it is an expression of love to a person. It is a topic that can help children be prepared. Why do you think children need to prepare and be taught this knowledge?

If your goal is to teach your children important morals to help them be wiser individuals, I would say, “Educate them on what love and intimacy is.” There are a few angles we can teach this. First, teach your children what a morally/wise person is by example. Then teach your children the value behind every human being. Teach them that everyone has special gifts and intelligence that hold worth. Teach your children to use these gifts in the way they are best suited to establish good and healthy relationships with others. 

By your example and teachings, your children should know and understand what a wise person is. As you stick with your goals and stay consistent in example, your children have a good chance in being good parents themselves. Honor and encourage one another. 

I hope you that a great responsibility in life is being not just a good parent, but a great one. You create conditions and circumstances. You have the power to encourage. Everything you do can bring the blessing of intimate individuals. This means developing people who are kind, loving, and willing to serve others (being intimate.) Intimacy is all about building.

A good parent is someone who is an emotional coach. This is someone who listens carefully to their child’s emotions and takes these moments to teach.  This will help your children become proud, secure, and happy individuals. This will build your relationship and will essentially rub off on them, leading them to do the same with individuals they encounter. 

The more you communicate with your child with love, the better chance you have in having a human being who loves and trusts you. Your child will love you and will look to you when they hve questions. Once you gain their trust, this is the perfect time to teach. Someday you will have the privilege to teach them sexual intimacy. Having their trust is vital. They will seek to learn and ask for this type of information someday. So, be ready!

For me, sexual intimacy is not appropriate before marriage. I fear that many relationships rush in their development together. We human beings tend to rush and skip the important steps in a relationship. In my eyes it’s important to know someone, then trust them, rely on them, commit to them, and engage in some degree of physical tough. When a relationship is focused on touch then that can define that relationship. I know many couples who engaged in sexual activity before marriage and admitted that they didn’t really know their partner at all. They just saw them as someone who is nice to cuddle or sleep with in bed. 

I believe it’s important to date and really get to know a person. Once you understand the content of their heart, then we can move on to trusting them, relying on them, committing to them, and touching them (simply a hug or holding hands). I feel if men and women waited to be sexually intimate (intercourse) till marriage it will be better for the relationship. How? Well, because after knowing them, trusting, relying, and committing you can learn who they really are. You then can appreciate them and express your love in a way through touch, hence intimacy. Now, how should we teach this to children. My answer, “I’m not a professional.” But, my advice is to educate yourself and teach your children at a time where you find it best. Every child is different and unique. Be yourself, be good, and be wise. Be that awesome parent. Your wisdom will open doors that will help you communicate with your children in a way where they will be blessed.