Same- Sex Attraction and the Respect For Choices

Same- Sex Attraction and the Respect For Choices

Everyone has a choice. I promote passion and love for individuals who struggle from same sex attraction.

Many individuals who have struggled with this enjoyed it but have come to learn that they were not happy. Many homosexuals didn’t choose to have these feelings. These feelings were developed at a young age.

I’ve often wondered, “what causes these feelings of attraction for a person of the same sex?” Experts have given some possibilities. Dr. Joseph Nicolosi (clinical psychologist) has said there is no evidence that it is biologically or pre-genetically pre-determined. There is more evidence for early childhood factors especially from the relationship of parents that determine an individual’s state of attraction in the future. Floyd Godfrey (who worked with 900 individuals with unwanted same-sex attraction) said that everyone has factors and needs.

 There are different contributing factors. Not everyone may have all of them but are eventually drawn to same-sex attraction. One of the potential contributing factors is lack of gender identity. Individuals have expressed rejection from same sex peers. They have expressed how they have not felt masculine enough, compared to others. The longing for male connection becomes gender identity.

Bullying detaches. For example, people have been bullied for their looks and stature or size. This aggressive behavior has driven those who struggle from same-sex attraction feel disconnected.

Another potential factor is the longing for a father figure. This is driven because of personality interests from the father, abuse, and other interactions or lack of interactions. Individuals take things to heart. What they experience in early development can essentially affect a person’s perception, possibly leading them to same-sex attraction.

Many men have been sexually abused or touched inappropriately. Some men have never been touched at all, lacking connection or warmth from parents. This makes them vulnerable. 

Pornography is another factor that can reinforce imagery that might bring same-sex attraction or feelings. Some young men has said that thoughts and interests in same sex attraction developed in early views of pornography.

Individuals who struggle with this attraction have expressed pain and confusion. There has been a state of emptiness. Through thereapy you can come to understand where your actions come from. Through all this work it is not easy. There will be many mistakes made along the way, but it will be rewarding in the end, as stated by individuals who have recovered from same-sex attraction. Once a person sees what causes their homosexual feelings, Floyd Godfrey has learned that attraction was brought because of lack of connection with other men. 

Most men can pick out short defining points that are encouraging to them. This is when they notice that their attraction is diminished. Self-esteem began to arise when this step happened; security in self and masculinity was improved.

Dr. Stanton L. Jones has a significant study that shows that some people with unwanted same-sex attraction can change. It’s believed that this is not changeable.

Individuals who have overcome same-sex attraction has shared positive experiences in their turning point. Eventually, in time, their attraction for the opposite sex developed. Some individuals expressed the joy they felt once they were able to achieve the love and compassion for those of the opposite sex. They felt good and right. Nicolas Cummings (psychologist) has seen hundreds who changed and achieved very happy and heterosexual lives.

In my studies I learned that a person is one who decides in what they want to do. Everyone has a choice or agency. I respect If someone who wants to be gay. I respect people who wants to marry the same sex. But I respect the right to disagree. I am a person who doesn’t accept the practice due to personal background. This doesn’t mean I hate homosexuals. I have many family members and friends who are homosexual. I love them and choose to treat them any different. Again, every person decides what they want to do. I cannot change that.